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“A person is being bullied when s/he is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more persons, and s/he has difficulty defending her/himself.”

Types of bullying
verbal (name calling)
Social (spreading rumors, excluding)
Cyberbullying (using online media to say/do mean things)

Is using Internet, cell phones, or other devices to embarrass, hurt, threaten, torment, or intimidate the target.

Conflict is a problem between two people. Many different types of conflicts can happen and can be solved through respectful conversation.

Conflict vs. Bullying
Conflict is a problem between two people. It is an active disagreement between people who hold different opinions, ideas, or feelings.

(Contrast to descriptors of bullying with the PAIN acronym)

Upstanders are people who will intervene when they encounter a bullying episode or an abusive situation or intolerant behavior, as opposed to a bystander, who does nothing but watch the event unfold.

For kids: An UPstander is someone who stands up for him/herself or another person when someone does or says something hurtful. An UPstander “stands up” by supporting the person who is being treated unkindly.

A bystander is someone who sees another person do or say something hurtful but does not say or do anything when it is happening to interrupt the bad behavior.

P.A.I.N Definition
these 4 things need to be present for something to be bullying:
P - imbalance of Power — the person engaging in the bullying has a real or perceived power over the person being bullied (age, size, popularity, role, group, etc.)
A - is Aggressive (physical, emotional, relational
I - is Intentional; on purpose
N - occurs Numerous times; a Number of times, not just once; repetitive

Social Emotional Learning (SEL) 
Learning that enables one to improve self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship skills and responsible decision-making. SEL is a process that helps children and adults learn skills such as recognizing and managing emotions, setting and achieving goals, solving problems effectively and forming positive relationships.